Posts Tagged ‘happiness’

“Sometimes we can get so wrapped up in our thoughts that we wind up going round and round in circles, finding it difficult to concentrate on things and, because we are so distracted, not really accomplishing much.”
http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2010/25031.html

“Have you been so focused on something that it seems to occupy your entire brain? Then there seems like there’s no room in your head for any other ideas or thoughts? Are you feeling a bit uptight or worried about how to do what you need to do accomplish? Do these thoughts keep you up or wake you up at night? Do you find it’s hard to concentrate on other things? You may even find yourself drifting off during other conversations. You’re mind is full trying to figure out how to get what you need done, how to come up with ideas for a new project or how to arrange your fall schedule balancing work and the responsibilities of your family. If you said yes to most of these questions above you’re being held hostage by your thoughts. When you are held hostage you don’t have the freedom to explore other ideas and opportunities, only the same old ones that are right there in front of your face. So how do you break out of the cycle of repetitive thoughts or worries that keep you confined? As I have been very focused on expanding my business, I have noticed it has helped letting go of the worry about how it will totally unfold. Giving myself freedom from worry by taking breaks and focusing on other things has helped me notice and be aware of new ideas. This morning I realized I needed to write my ezine. Even though I wanted to start on it, I just didn’t feel inspired. I noticed when I opened up my computer that the many icons on my desktop were blocking the picture on my screen. I took a short break from thinking about my ezine and re-arranged the ions and cleaned up the desktop. Next, I opened up my email and I took the time read the Daily Om (I don’t always read them). The answer came to me quickly on what to write about! These short “breaks” from my brain in hostage-mode about the ezine gave me the perfect validation for how I had been working on my business and gave me idea for this blog.

In this Daily Om they suggest you give yourself a gift – you probably guessed it – to step away from your worry or project. Doing this “lessens the load“. I know what you’re thinking. The problem will still be there, I still have to figure this out. That’s true, however, what comes from stepping back is the gift of answers you are looking for as you create the space to hear or see them. Your body relaxes and your mind is more open and receptive. No one is saying to ignore the deadline or not take care of your responsibilities – just take a break.

One blogger on Daily Om said it so well, “It is around 1:41 am. I am wide awake as thoughts at what happened at my office today are driving me crazy. I get up and switch on my computer, enter my email address and password. There I am looking at this Daily OM email: Taking a Break from What You are Doing. Terrific. Exactly what I needed and exactly at the right moment. I read it and am amazed. Suddenly I feel less tense. There is a sense that the Universe is communicating with me and is trying to help me.” ~ http://www.dailyom.com

The idea is to give yourself a mini vacation from the planning or the worry. “By stepping away from the problems that seem to saturate our thoughts, we lessen the weight of our troubles and instead become more receptive to the wisdom and answers the universe has to offer us”. http://www.dailyom.com/articles/2010/25031.html

3 Steps to Release the Hostage to Get the Gifts

• Consciously take a mind vacation from your project or worries (even if it’s just on the way to the car or a trip to the bathroom). Just switch the station on your thoughts – think of something else or something you love or enjoy
• Take a mini yoga break, walk, read a book, switch to another activity and monitor your thoughts on “vacation mode” from the project or worries
• Put your focus on what you are doing when you are in the shower, shaving or drying your hair or and watch the creative ideas pour in

Free and on a thought-vacation at least for a little while,
Bonnie

Have you ever felt the invisible energy of change like the strength of a full blown hurricane? This morning I woke up knowing I wanted to change my schedule in a way that would make me feel comforted and peaceful – this after hurricane force winds-of-change in my life last week. The winds of change may feel different to everyone but they all have a consistent theme – change. You may feel it in shake-ups in your work or in your family. Or you may feel it as a change of heart about what you want to do or not do anymore. In the last blog I wrote about making a small change in your routine to do things to bring more fun and lightness to your life. When you change your routine or do something just a bit differently, even if it’s a small change, it can give you a sense of grounding if you need it. Or space for creativity and finding a new solution. Or even a feeling of being okay. During change, it’s all about finding that place of peace inside and being able to see things from another perspective. Although, it may seem inconsequential in some ways, these last few weeks we all have been affected by something. For many reasons this year this force has had tremendous influence on us, whether we are aware of it and believe in it or not. I am referring to the Summer Solstice, or the longest day of the year. In ancient times the Summer Solstice started as a time of celebration marking the beginning of summer. You may be wondering how the longest day of the year (June 21st), which starts one of the most playful times of the year, is heralding change with the force of a full-blown hurricane. As I’m sure you can attest to, change has been around us in large doses these last few years. We see it in the news and we feel it in our personal lives. You may have felt it inside as a desire to live with less stress, let go of a relationship that’s not working, or being able to sleep instead of being kept awake by worry as many of my clients have been.

For me, the hurricane this week was finding out that the business I do contract work for is closing after three months of uncertainty. To make it worse, we had to sit and listen to a three hour board meeting which seemed like having surgery without anesthesia. But, the truth is everyone will be better off in another place. Next on the list, my daughter was side-swiped in her brand new SUV at a stop sign – thank goodness she is fine. Also my mother had surgery and unexpectedly the results indicated she has to have a second much more involved surgery. She is amazing and will move with grace through it. That is what she believes with her deep faith – and so it will be. Additionally, at the end of the week one of my three closest friends who had birthdays this week had one of the worst days of her life on her birthday but fortunately it turned around with unexpected gifts and fairy-like magic.

Yes, the “hurricane” is certainly in full force, the winds are blowing everything around. The energy of change has been making its presence known. In those trying and frightening moments it would have been easy (believe me, really easy) to miss the positive changes that were being born, brought about by the change. But they were there also. Haven’t you felt those moments when the world is falling down all around you and it feels like it’s all lost, when deep inside you know it’s not? One positive change that manifested this week was the often asked question about the expansion I have desired in my business. A wonderful confirmation showed itself to me in unexpected ways. The seeds had been planted and were growing from my intentions and desires without my conscious awareness. You’ll be hearing more about this in my ezines in the next month or two.

The gift I want to share with you is of thinking there may be more possibilities than the obvious one. What might seem “negative” or “bad” may not be that at all. It’s possible it’s a much needed change that will bring improvement. It could be something that makes you feel better despite the winds. Maybe it will be the answer you were looking for.

So today I thank the energy of the solstice which is supporting us to ride the winds of change into something more joyful and peaceful in our inner worlds and on the planet. I thank myself for exercising, eating my breakfast and getting back into bed in my sunlit bedroom to write this blog where I feel comforted and at peace. Most importantly, my wish for you is to make a small change…something that will support you in seeing the winds of change differently. How can the winds of change move you in the direction of what you want? How can you find that place of less worry and more connection? Even though you may think it won’t work, change up your routine, find some time to nurture yourself! I promise it works every time, but don’t forget to look and feel what’s different afterwards. Follow the dots. They may lead somewhere really surprising and wonderful.

Happy Summer of change,
Bonnie

Is your life starting to feel like you’re always on automatic? If it is, don’t panic, being on automatic pilot isn’t always a bad thing. Doing things automatically and having routines allows us to get what we need to get accomplished more easily. It would be difficult if you had to stop and think about every little detail of what you had to do each day before your feet touched the floor in the morning. You would be exhausted (even more tired than you may already be). I just want to make sure you don’t fall into what I call “empty syndrome”. You know you have “empty syndrome” when you feel vacant from your life and almost everything you do is mechanical and routine. Or if your daily gratitudes become automatic and stale. Or if the things you used to enjoy have become mundane and now you think of them as just one more thing to put on you’re overloaded schedule. If you already have “empty syndrome”, I can help you get out! The good news is summer is a really wonderful time to break out of your usual routines or prevent having an overly full on-automatic-pilot life. During the summer there’s always a sense of freedom in the air. Your routine may change out of necessity as the kids are home from school. But why not use that as a chance to be creative with your time and theirs. Even without having to care for children, everyone seems a bit lighter during the summer, so take this opportunity to take back your life.

So how do you change your tried and true routines that almost run on their own? Pick something simple and do it a different way. Switch around the order of how you do things or choose an entirely new routine to accomplish the same outcome. If you always work out the same way, find something totally different to get the same good results. If you always watch TV during or after dinner, watch TV before. Maybe listen to music one night a week instead. Try squeezing your toothpaste from the opposite end of the tube. Drive a different route to the store or work. Buy some unusual foods or even a new brand. Visit a new ice cream parlor with the kids or just try an unusual flavor of ice cream! Yes, change can be strange for a little while but you are guaranteed to make wondrous discoveries with every alteration you make. The whole idea is to be more present in the moment, not on the automatic-no-thinking-mode, so you can get back into feeling your life! Happiness is right there for you. Sometimes you just have to get out of the familiar and grab it.

Choosing the feeling life,
Bonnie

My husband and I rode on a wave of  fun and relaxation during Memorial Day weekend. We marveled at how great it was. I think it’s one of the first three-day weekends we relaxed being at home and not on vacation.  We relaxed and had fun all three days. It was fantastic! So, I really wanted to share with you what we noticed afterward during our “work week”.

Although there was some irritability and anxiety  in air at my two-day contract job, I noticed that it didn’t affect me as much.  It was easier to stay light and unburdened in an uncertain working situation.  Although I stay pretty balanced, the uncertainty of what’s going on can and does affect me at times. I also noticed it was easier for me to support others to observe, without judgment, and really look at where some of the unrest was stemming from.  It was even easier to explain how to shift the focus to the appreciative side of things.

As you know, with change there can also be drama. Everyday there seemed to be something to set everyone off.  You have to admit there are times we all feed on the “drama” of a situation.  So to lighten things up a bit, I suggested we consider the idea that we’re playing a kid’s game of “gossip”.   Yes, it was much easier and more fun when we looked at what was happening in that light!  So we looked at the “rumors”  as part of the game.  The rumors  weren’t the truth (which is the Truth). When we can relax into what is going on with our own stories and opinions or with other people’s stories and opinions, we’re not coloring our world into one of negativity. Life can then take on  a more light and playful flavor.  Playing the game of gossip took the pressure and the sting out of what will happen in the future…because we truly don’t know what will happen for awhile yet.

Each day we played  “gossip” and asked each other what the latest game had for us today. We actually laughed! I felt lighter and not as tired at the end of the day. My co-workers seemed lighter also.

The tension bubble  popped.  And, letting go of  the tension is what’s important for our bodies and our minds. The truth is we don’t live in the past or the future . We know we only have the present moment. (I know at times  our minds struggle with the thought of staying in the present, being in the flow and at the same time open to the the cues that guide us to move forward.)

On the other front, my husband was noticeably lighter and more optimistic than before the weekend. He seemed more committed to certain things that had been eluding him in the past.  And I heard him whistle – a sure sign that all is well in his world.

Research tells us the importance of play and taking daily time-out on our stress levels, health, and happiness. But, I strongly suggest you do your own research.  The carryover effect is one you’ll be sure to notice. Relax into relaxing, it’s much more productive than you may think. !

So put your feet up and relax into relaxing,

Bonnie

P.S .What do you notice when you relax or take a time-out? What do you do to relax? Or how do you take some quiet time for yourself? How are you different afterward?  Post any of the answers to any of the questions and share with our readers.

Is there a connection between play and murder? There really is one; you’ll find the answer as you finish reading this blog. After another training session in Matrix Energetics where everything is considered “play” – including playing while taking in consideration conditions such as cancer and other serious aliments many people suffer from – I understood even more clearly the power of play. (During a Matrix Session they didn’t take “the condition” lightly,but the session was structured in a light and playful manner yielding amazing results.)  When your focus is light-hearted and even fun, your focus is shifted away from the problem and more “space” is created for healing. As I follow the path of how fun makes life easier, I want to share it with you. It’s a simple way to make a change in your life without having to “work” at it. My deepest desire is to support you in increasing your ability to have a life you would choose, to be happier, have life be  less chaotic and more peaceful. And, play and fun is a great place to start. (Don’t forget you will be healthier and more productive when you play). Because my clients have really experienced how The Fun Factor plays into productivity, I have been led in a direction of finding more supporting evidence on the benefits of play and fun, which is what this week’s blog is all about.

My Fun – What’s Yours?

I have found one of the things I loved as a kid and many of you may might have loved too (I know I mentioned it before) was hula hooping. Here in Florida hula hooping seems to be an up and coming new sport. Even though it may take some effort, there are great benefits from playing with a hula hoop. Who thought whirling your hips in odd directions and sometimes looking incredibly silly could increase your memory, your mood, your biceps and your core? And, it’s fun! A bit of a workout, but fun!!! I always feel energized afterward. Why is this fun to me? I love my purple and gold adult hula hoop. It reminds me of the fun I had as a child. I was good at it then. It makes me happy. I laugh. Believe it or not, creative ideas pop into my head about all kinds of things during and after I hoop. I feel good about taking care of my body. I actually think it’s a joke on me. I’m exercising but it’s fun. An oxymoron for sure for me.

For those of you who may be a “type-A personality”, keep reading. Playing and or fooling around will activate creativity and passion, transferring literally to other aspects of your life including work, how you relate to your friends, family and your marriage. According to the American Medical Association, “When you take a vacation from work — even a four-day weekend — you are more inventive, productive and healthier (fewer sick days) when you return,” says Stuart Brown, MD, a researcher for The National Institute for Play. Yes, there really is one! A pioneer in research on play, Brown says, “Humor, games, roughhousing, flirtation and fantasy are more than just fun. Plenty of play in childhood makes for happy, smart adults — and keeping it up can make us smarter at any age”.

The Research

Dr. Stuart Brown’s research “shows play is not just joyful and energizing — it’s deeply involved with human development and intelligence.” I was thrilled to hear his suggestion to “explore backwards and go to the most clear, joyful image you have” in your life and remember playing, whether it’s an activity or toy, and feel the emotion. The next step is to think: how can you relate that emotion to your life now? Another aspect of what I wrote about in the F… Factor. The emotion is what you are looking for, that’s the link and the power of play.

Why, why, why play? Because it makes your life happier. You are more productive and more creative. You will find yourself with a pure and wonderful sense of wellbeing. Playing can lead you to your passions and the next step in your life. I know what you are thinking: play, sure, sure, sure. But, the bottom line is you’ll like your life more. Brown says the opposite of play is not work, it’s “depression.”

By the way, Stuart found after looking at murderers’ profiles that they were “play deprived.” More research is pointing to a child’s development being enhanced or curtailed by the opportunities to play or not.

Have a Fun Memorial Day Weekend!

Enjoy some guilt-free playing—you will enjoy your life more,

Bonnie

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The word that starts with an “F” isn’t that word. However I am talking about another word that may still seem like a “dirty word” to some people. Can you guess what it is? It came up twice in 24 hours for me in two completely different scenarios. Here’s how it started. Last weekend I had created some space and time and I thought…

“What can I do for…” Yes, you probably have guessed it now. I wondered what I could do for FUN! I know last year I bought some chalk and an artist’s pad. I dibbled a bit on it, but the delicious upwelling of really having fun didn’t happen. So after a while I put the art supplies away. But I still wanted to have some fun. So I thought to myself, “What else gives me an uplifting feeling?” For me, creating something is fun and two weeks ago I started contemplating how to make simple window treatments for my bedroom windows. That satisfied some of the fun factor for me. However, it wasn’t quite enough.

Why is it so hard for me to create fun in my life? (I don’t have a problem if you suggest something fun. If you create it, I will go along for the ride.) I was talking to Mary, one of my wise friends and colleagues. We talked about creating our days and lives with ease and grace. You know I’m all about that. But, I often forget as I put my intentions out there to ask for fun. Why? As my friend Mary (delphicwave.com) said, some of us aren’t wired or programmed for having fun. We have other genetics but the fun strand of genes isn’t there. When they were calling for those who wanted fun in this life, I must have thought they said “run” and missed out. Nevertheless, all isn’t lost. Mary and I discussed thinking about the feeling of fun as a start to take us into our personal fun factor. We all can remember having fun and how it felt. It was easier for me when my children were little and when I saw children in my counseling practice. No wonder I loved thinking of things that were fun for the children – I was looking for fun!

Some of you may be thinking, “How can she be writing about fun in this uncertain, turbulent world?” Did you know that fun is a necessary ingredient to your health and happiness? It’s crucial during times of turbulence and change to combat the effects of stress. We don’t want to raise our children to only have fun electronically. Playing is a key ingredient to problem solving and creativity. Did you know there are businesses that have game rooms and devoted time to play? Did you know there are stories of people curing themselves of cancer by having fun and laughing while watching movies? It’s also a different way to live. A way to live that brings us closer to why we are on this planet. Living on purpose, being our true selves and enjoying our unique special gifts and passions are not supposed to be work! Wouldn’t it be nice to live each day with a bit more fun in life? I’m up for that! Are you? A first step may be to start your day adding to your intention to remember having fun. Then ask for more of that please…

If you have children or grandchildren, get on the floor and play! (No, not video games.) Go out and really have fun. Go to the zoo, blow bubbles, play ball – anything that feels like fun and brings a smile to your face.

To help those of us with the non dominant fun gene, why don’t you post your healthy, fun activities so we can get some fun ideas!

Bonnie

P.S. Almost every time my husband and I go on vacation, he gets a call from his assistant who says another “case” coming in (he does custody evaluations and reviews, so it like other businesses with ups in downs in the income stream), while he is having fun NOT working.

Staying out of the cracks may even be tough on Sundays. My husband and I enjoy our Sunday ritual of eating breakfast and “reading” the Sunday paper. I “read” the ads and my husband reads the headline stories. I love looking at the ads and how they are displayed and what’s new for the week. We have a local glossy magazine that periodically is included in the paper and the pictures are quite stunning. Sometimes, when I look up I see the expression on my husband’s face as he is reading. I can tell what he’s reading isn’t good. I cutely say “What uplifting story are you reading, honey?” Then my husband shares what he has just read which 95% of the time is a deflator. It zaps any positive energy you might have had before breakfast right down to zero.

We finish breakfast. My husband leaves with his focus and thoughts on lack: the lack of integrity of people, the lack of money, the poor housing market or the horrible things happening in our schools. However, I’m cheerful after a bit of visual stimulus and actually some quite beautiful images. My mind is open to what comes next in the day and my mood is uplifted being with my husband and having enjoyed the rituals of Sunday morning breakfast. The amazing thing is the majority of the time I never do more than look at the ads. I don’t run out shopping. (My husband said he was really happy about that.) I get my tiny bit of “current events” but not by reading the newspaper. I have friends who don’t watch the news at all or read the newspaper, but for me I like to be just slightly aware of the outside reality although I don’t want to I live in it. I know I choose either consciously or unconsciously the awareness I live in.

After the weekend I just experienced, I think the question I want to pose to you is what are you filling up on? What is the reality you want to live in? Do you spend a lot of time focusing on the outward things? Something that didn’t go the way you expected because you thought it was out of your “control”? Or what’s not perfect at work and in the world? Or are you turned inward and focused on that small detail that didn’t fall into the perfect place and yes, somehow you are blaming yourself for it? If you’re like many of us, you can easily get caught in the cracks of what’s not working. I know it’s very easy to do when we are peering in the darkness of what’s going “wrong”. With my clients I have found this to be one of the hazards of a calendar that’s so full they are continually moving. They forget they have a hand in the businesses of life, instantly forget the good and lose their confidence when a shadow appears. If you don’t stop, you don’t have time to see the bigger picture – just the cracks and shadows. If you don’t stop, you don’t change your reality. You keep it going just like a hamster on one of those hamster wheels.

It makes me think of noise canceling, the white noise machines that cancel out other sounds. It cancels out other options. When you fall into the crack you automatically delete what’s positive. As my friend Margaret in Australia says, your brain is deleting all the time. You can’t possibly take in all the stimulus that we are bombarded with every second. Even as you read this you may be deleting the sounds around you or the sun coming in the window. Maybe as you read this ezine, you’re deleting another email or doing something else. You delete things all the time. But you don’t want to delete your successes! Unfortunately, when you stay in the cracks you automatically delete your successes.

We have “programs” installed from when we are children because our society focuses on disasters not successes. We focus on weakness not strengths. What’s important is you can choose what you delete by simply choosing to delete something different.

What are you filling yourself up with now? What are you going to delete so the light shines in? Stay out of the cracks! Celebrate your successes and delete the things that don’t uplift you. That includes the inner voice that tells you where you have failed and where you are succeeding.

Bonnie

P.S. I found a great shadow-buster to help you stay out of the cracks. For all of you who love Twitter, Facebook, and apps and would like a new app for your phone or iTouch look for a daily dose of positive energy “Kindness App” by Pam Grout, a colleague and the author of God Doesn’t Have Bad Hair Days. It’s fun, uplifting and inspiring and I know it’ll support you in a quick and simple way to focus on the success in your days.

We all know it’s always darkest before the dawn – the world is at its most gloomy before the light can start seeping through the waves of darkness. In several faith traditions, this is the week of darkness before the light. “A week” you say? I know it feels longer than a week. I have spoken to many people who have felt that the darkness and chaos started last week (or last year or over the last several years) and I have felt the same way. Even the most grounded, successful and spiritually-trusting people have been challenged. I know this may be a turbulent time whether it’s the small dramas, the busyness of life or the ongoing bigger issues that concern you. How do you find those beams of light, take care of yourself and not drop all the balls you have in the air as you put out fires at home and work, meet everyone else’s needs and take care of your family all while staying connected and trusting? That’s a good question, and it’s one I ask myself and my clients routinely.

I want to share with you what I know can support you in connecting to the “light” this week or any busy day (or week or year) in your life. However, I hesitate to suggest this to you as I have consciously left it out of my conversations and writings as many of you may consider it a “dirty” word. Here is goes…one of the best ways you can find your way out of the dark and into the light is to meditate. Yes, I wrote it. If Oprah can use the word, I know it’s okay for me to use it, too. But I can hear you now — I don’t have time, I can’t quiet my mind, that isn’t for me — and I really understand. I started out feeling that way also.

Here’s the good news. Everyone can “meditate” because it’s easier and less time consuming than you think. It takes you out of the dark and gives you a peek of light. And, we do it all the time already — meditating is just focused attention. It’s about being open and listening and being present in the moment. I looked up the word meditation and it comes from the Indo-European root med – meaning “to measure”. Meditation has been defined as: “self regulation of attention, in the service of self-inquiry, in the here and now.”

Many simple meditation techniques ask you to focus on your breathing. Focusing on your breathing engages your left brain, keeping it from trying to figure everything out, and allowing you freedom from other thoughts. The key (coming from the Buddhist tradition) is taking your mind out of the mix even for a short time and allowing the space, “the wiggle room”, for the answers or inspiration to surface. (There’s more on wiggle room in the last blog post). So if you stop what you’re doing and focus on your breathing — you’re meditating.

Step it up by using self inquiry-questions before you start such as “I wonder how this darkness and chaos will lift?” Or “What is the most important thing for me to do next?” Or “I wonder how it would feel if I wasn’t ______.” The answers will come either now or later if you give them the chance. Just four easy steps: Stop what you are doing, take a deep breath, ask your questions and then focus on your breathing. Try this for one to three minutes — that’s all! Then notice what is different, the lightness you feel…and keep noticing. Keep noticing what’s different.

Meditation can take place during many activities, not just when you’re sitting still with your eyes closed. It can come when you are writing in a journal, as you do routine chores, or while taking a walk. Just staying in the present moment noticing with your senses what you are doing. It’s all about focusing in the moment…the moment you have right now.

I know how difficult it is to make the best choices in the midst of too much do, in the middle of chaos and drama. I would love to help you! So I encourage you to take a “meditation break” and let the best choices for you and your life come to you in the “light”.

Resources to find some light in your life

Listen to “3 Minutes of Light” Meditation in the Jacuzzi Room.

The Soothing SoundPaths™ to Serenity: The Virtual Spa™ CD (available in CD or downloadable version)

Walking Meditation by Thich Nhat Hanh and Anh-Huong Nguyen

The Miracle of Mindfulness by Thich Nhat Hanh

One-Moment Meditation: Stillness for People on the Go by Martin Boroson

Transform Stress in 30 Days with One-Moment Meditation®
My wish for you is that you connect to the light of meditation,
Bonnie
PS Post and let us know how “meditation” helped you let in some light. Thanks for posting,when you post it really helps others on the path!

You can change your bubble of reality, even though sometimes you may find it difficult to imagine. After reading Bartlett’s book, The Physics of a Miracle and listening to his CDs, I knew deep inside what Bartlett was talking about rang true to me on a profound level. It confirmed what I have witnessed with my clients and myself many times. We do have the ability to shift and create changes in many places in our life – in the little and big challenges in our bubbles. Just playing (that’s an important word) a bit with the concepts, I saw magic occur. After experimenting further, I felt the strong energy of change that I had read about. I continue to be very hopeful and excited as I pursue changing my bubble of reality even more and supporting my clients in shifting their reality more quickly to what they desire.

This past weekend I attended a Matrix Energetic Workshop with Dr. Bartlett. I had a strong desire to “sit” in the energy and learn more about how to shift my reality bubble. You may think that Bartlett is a bit of a “crazy guy” (he says that about himself) but he allows you to be your “crazy self” and not judge you for it. In fact, he honors and respects your reality. When the workshop is over, you know this man is brilliant with his vast knowledge of medicine, religion, Quantum Physics and much, much more. However, he would tell you that isn’t what’s important. It’s probably not, but for some it may be a reference point of creditability. My impression of Bartlett’s mission and purpose is to find as many people as possible and teach them how to shift their reality bubble.

Physical Reality Shifts Right in Front of Our Eyes

How crazy would it be if a person’s bubble includes a possible neurological disorder and then it doesn’t? At the workshop, one of participants from the audience walks unsteadily on the stage with help of a cane but when he leaves the stage he walks off the stage holding the cane in his hand. I think you would agree that is a miracle. (The next day this man held the cane just in case he needed it and two days later he didn’t even carry the cane. You would have never known he could barely walk before).

There was just enough room in his bubble of reality, just a little “wiggle room”, to think that things could be different. Did Bartlett focus on what was wrong? No! He placed his observations of the “problems” on an imaginary clipboard and then created a shift. Then, Bartlett directed his focus elsewhere using two other points of reference partnered with fun, laughter and his strong belief there was another bubble of reality in which this person walked without a cane. Sound a bit strange? Maybe or maybe not? I remember a quote from the bible where after Jesus healed someone he said you can this and more.

How do you shift your bubble and create the magic? Find a small space, those moments where you have just a little wiggle room. The space where you can find trust in your heart, where what you want is possible. All you have to do is think of a situation. It starts on the inside…the inside of you… from a deep desire in your heart. Stop right now and think about something you desire…, stay in your heart space and let that thought go. Now move your focus to a success you have had or a gratitude for something in your life. Just the simple act of moving your focus shifts your bubble. Remember, the more you think about what you don’t have the more you create that. Bartlett suggests you put what you want on an imaginary clipboard. Allow Spirit the Divine or God to work out the details. How do you do that again? Move into your heart. Ask open ended questions: what would it be like? What will be the next step? But don’t answer them! Let your right intuitive brain go to work and give your left brain the steps. You job: Feel it from your heart space and then switch your focus to something else . Stay away from what you don’t think you have or what you don’t want to happen.

Focus on those uplifting synchronicies. The ones that surprise you, where people show up and experiences happen in a way that you noticed seemed amazing. Focus on that! The more you focus on those kinds of miracles, even when things are challenging, you’ll find more magic will happen in your life and the more you will shift from what you didn’t want to a life that you truly desire. I know how powerful you are in many areas of your life. I know you can shift your bubble in other areas of your reality too!

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How many times have you said, I want to… take better care of myself, create a better work life balance, just be still for a few minutes, end that relationship that’s draining me, make a career change, just have more fun, etc.? And then nothing happens. That’s a good sign that your intentions, your heart’s deepest desires, aren’t in sync with what’s really happening in your life. No real surprise to you I’m sure. Here is the good news – there’s an easy solution and can really be fun. In the last blog I wrote about intentions for the New Year. (It doesn’t have to be January to create new intentions for your life. You can do this anytime of the year.)

Sync –”harmony, causes something to occur in unison, working at the same time”

A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to watch a group of powerful women easily move into what I think of as a “heart life sync”. It seemed the perfect way to start February. Each of the women at this party lead very busy, very full lives. But, they decided to put themselves first and take the time to ponder the questions from the last blog and get together to have a vision board “party” with me.

As the “party” progressed, I could feel the energy shift as I watched this amazing group of women, all of whom had many challenges in the past year, commit to uplifting themselves to greater health, sharing their gifts, creating healthier more loving relationships, finding a healthier job or having the desire to create more balance in their lives. They designed their unique and expressive vision boards, written intentions and next steps with ease and grace. Yes, there were shared painful moments of the past.

During our conversation before the crafting began, they honestly shared what hadn’t worked, what bolstered them and their individual strengths. I don’t think they knew how easy and fun it was going to be to connect to what was really in their hearts and have fun!

As their vision boards emerged in pictures and words, I witnessed a change, a “sync” in each of them as their hearts opened to the path of what they truly desired. I saw it in their faces, in the stories they shared, the support they gave each other and the beautiful unique boards they created. It was during these moments I knew each woman would be walking the path of their heart more fully and change would happen. This time together started the synchronization process between where they were at that moment and where they wanted to be. I know this process was for each of them a time of connection, harmony and movement.

You can do the same.

Three Steps to Syncing with Your Heart this February or any other time)

Step 1

These are the characteristics each woman brought to the party to connect and with her heart. Ask yourself the questions below to get into your heart sync with your life.

• Do you have a desire to BE different, to really connect to your their heart’s desires no matter how busy your life is?
• Do you have a commitment to DO some things differently?
• What are the steps you need to take to BE different?
• What strengths do you use in the “good times” and what strengths do you use in the challenging times?
• As we mentioned in the last blog, what do you need to support you to now that you didn’t have before?

Step 2

Write the answers to the questions above and create a visual daily reminder.

Step 3

Send this blog to a friend and partner with them. Do periodic check-ins to see how you each are doing with your “syncing to your heart’s desires.” The connection is made – this helps to make it strong and not to disconnect.

Post a comment and let me know what happened when you did this. How did you feel? Or just post and let us know you have taken your first step!

Here is a a great video on visioning.

Have fun and post your thoughts,
Bonnie